What the Tech: Warning signs that your child may be a victim of sextortion
By JAMIE TUCKER Consumer Technology Reporter
Sextortion can start with what seems like a harmless message from a new friend. That friend may ask for a nude photo, and once they get it, the blackmail begins. The scammers threaten to share the image unless the child sends money or more photos.
Tragically, it’s working. Many victims never tell a parent or report it to police.
But there are signs, and knowing what to look for could save your child.
“They feel trapped”
Sean Quellos is a digital forensics expert who now works pro bono to help kids and their families track down these predators and work with law enforcement.
“You’re dealing with teenagers, or kids even younger than that,” Quellos says. “It’s a large-scale incident for them. They feel like there’s nothing they can do. They feel trapped by the sextortionist.”
That feeling of shame and fear is what predators rely on. But there are early warning signs that something is wrong, and parents need to be on alert.
Red Flags for Parents
Quellos says these behavior changes could be clues that something is going on:
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A sudden obsession with phones or messaging apps
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Pulling away from activities like sports or spending time with friends
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Hiding devices or changing passwords
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Anxiety, mood swings, or increased secrecy
These shifts are often subtle at first but can escalate quickly. If your child suddenly isolates themselves, becomes overly secretive, or starts avoiding friends, it’s time to have a conversation.
Red Flags in the Chat
Kids can also watch for clues that someone they’re talking to isn’t who they claim to be. Sextortionists often target dozens of children at once and make simple mistakes.
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They forget details your child has shared
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They ask the same questions repeatedly
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They call the victim by the wrong name
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They say things that clearly don’t apply
These are signs the person on the other end may be impersonating someone, and may have dangerous intentions.
A Tool to Take Control
Now there’s a tool that can help. It’s called Take It Down, created by the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children. It allows kids and families to anonymously flag explicit images and remove them from websites and social media, even if they’ve already been shared.
How it works:
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Users upload or describe the image privately on their own device
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The tool creates a digital fingerprint of the image
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Platforms like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, and others scan for and remove any matching content
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Importantly, the image itself is never uploaded. The system uses encrypted identifiers to protect the user’s privacy while helping them regain control.
